Hello there! Welcome to my personal journal! I'm Molly, a digital and film photographer with a romantic, airy, and timeless style. Here, I share everything from personal announcements to recaps of beautiful weddings and engagements. So go ahead and pour yourself a glass of wine, and browse my entries below! Or if you like what you see, contact me, and let's work together!

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Hello there! Welcome to my personal journal! I'm Molly, a digital and film photographer with a romantic, airy, and timeless style. Here, I share everything from personal announcements to recaps of beautiful weddings and engagements. So go ahead and pour yourself a glass of wine, and browse my entries below! Or if you like what you see, contact me, and let's work together!

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December 1, 2017

We’re Having a Destination Wedding… And Here’s Why:

It was Friday, August 25th. Connor and I had joined 30 of our closest family and friends for a vacation in Ocean City, Maryland. Some people ask me if I knew what was coming. My answer is still: not entirely, but I had a funny feeling!

Connor took my hand, led me down to the dock of my uncle’s house on the Chesapeake, and got down on one knee. I blacked out, cried a LOT, and then remember screaming YES! In that order.

Immediately afterward, I was in a state that is pretty indescribable, but I’ll give it a go: It’s like being hopped up on caffeine, surrounded by puppies, and cozied up in your favorite blanket, on Christmas morning.

How’s that?

Shortly after coming down from the high, questions ensued.

“Where are you having it?”

“What time of year?”

“What kind of dress do you want?”

“Have you called your Grandfather?”

Wait, WHAT?! Of course, I’ve been dreaming of my wedding day since I was probably in middle school, and I had an answer for every one of these questions already. So, for about a month, I was in wedding planning bliss. It was going to be in Virginia, with a pale blue & green color palette, flowers everywhere, an open bar, and we will party until midnight!
Then, I saw it. There on my laptop screen. It looked like this:

Grand total: $$$$$

Well, crap. We can’t afford that!

Our beautiful vision for our wedding started slowly turning into a potluck picnic under a pavilion in a local park. (Not that there is anything wrong with that) It just wasn’t what we imagined. That’s because what we wanted was to please EVERYONE.

Connor & I are definitely “YES” people! For example: did you say you like vanilla cake instead of chocolate? Okay, we’re gonna need Vanilla. He said he likes a DJ? She said she likes a band? We should get both.

Enter: my sister (matron of honor) and brother-in-law (unordained officiant). They said: What will make YOU guys happy on your wedding day?

Wait, us? You want to know what WE want? 

We had completely forgotten to consider that.

So, we poured some heavy cocktails and talked about it. What we figured out, is this:

We want to remember it. If we’re going to spend this much money on 12 hours, we want to remember everything. This conclusion came from talking to my sister, too. She told us: “Our wedding was the most fun we’ve ever had, but I just don’t know where all the time in the day went! It was there and gone before we knew it.” This made Connor and I realize that we want to relish in it. We want to celebrate with the people who love us, and that we love, for more than a few hours.

We want it to be extraordinary. We have an awesome story (if you want to read more about it, click here, and scroll down.) and we wanted our wedding to be nothing short of that. Every great love story deserves an epic ending (or new beginning) am I right?

We want it to be true to us. If our guests attend this wedding, we’d want them to leave and say, “That was a wedding made for Molly & Connor”. So most of all, it better be filled with booze, good food, and many “funs.” (that’s Connor’s signature word; because there should be a plural of fun, don’t you think?)

Cut to another month later:

I was sitting at work, daydreaming (obviously) and here’s the thought process that sparked it all, in short:

Holy moly we have a lot of student loan debt. How can we afford a wedding? For 300 people?

I’m not having it in a park with plastic tablecloths. 

We can’t have a destination wedding, a beach setting is definitely not true to us as a couple. 

Wait, isn’t Connor’s coworker getting married in Thailand? Maybe…a destination wedding doesn’t have to be at a beach…

We’ve always talked about going to Ireland together…

Can we get married in Ireland?! Is that even possible?!

*lots of google-ing, followed by immediate happy tears*

My heart felt so full. 

“THIS! This is it! This is what would make US happy.”

I decided not tell Connor my idea until he got home that night. But I couldn’t stop thinking about how perfect it would be: to wake up in such a beautiful place, with our best friends and family around us, and marry the love of my life. Then, maybe one day, we’ll get to tell our future children just how amazing it all was.

That night, he walked in the front door, unsuspecting, and I waited there on the couch, like a 2-year-old with a secret. My overwhelming excitement quickly became tears of joy, but he didn’t understand yet…

“what’s wrong?! did you have a bad day?!”

NO! I’m just so happy!”

Connor’s laughing at this point, and I am too. “What is it then? What are you happy about?”

“DO YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED IN IRELAND?!” I blurted it out between heavy breaths.

He was shocked. But his reaction was everything I’d hoped for. 

“How on earth did you come up with that idea?!” 

I told him the whole story. (See: above)

Connor’s eyes started looking a little glassy, then he hugged me, and said: “It’s perfect.”

That same feeling came back, the one after I said yes. We talked almost all night, about what to do next…

So, I told my parents. This was the scary part. But to my surprise, my mom cried, too! Happy tears! She loved the idea! And best of all, she was the first one to say it; “that just suits you two”. Then, after a few more details, my dad quickly came around to the idea, too. I felt reassured. This was really happening!

Connor told his parents, I told my sister, we found a wedding planner, and before we knew it, contracts were signed. But – it was definitely not a quick decision. We knew what we were giving up: people who we loved in attendance. My Nanny, our flower girl & ring bearers, Connor’s grandmother, just to name a few. It was a hard decision, but it still felt true to us.

And that’s my favorite part. We get to experience such a special time in our lives in an extraordinary place, surrounded by people we love, for more than just 1 day, and cherish the celebration – because that’s what we want to do.

 

All photos courtesy of the wonderful Tayler Bavender Photography. How she got Connor to keep his eyes open in all of these, I’ll never know.

  1. Melissa Berrios

    August 27th, 2018 at 7:29 pm

    Love your engagement shots. Congrats on your engagement! I am really glad that you guys are back in town 🙂

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